For anyone who is in a marriage that seems to be no longer working, seeking for help is the first step to try and salvage it. This is because, after trying to sort out issues on your own, having a new person look at your situation and give you insight on the same will go a long ways in shedding light on your issue. In such a situation, it is, therefore, important to get a professional counselor.
When looking for a counselor, the first thing you need to look out or is their qualifications. There are different requirements in different places for one to be called a professional counselor. When in doubt, do not hesitate to ask them, to provide proof of their license as a marriage counselor as this will keep your mind at ease.
The other thing you need to consider despite their qualification is their years of experience. A counselor who has been practicing for longer is often better equipped to handle your marital issues. A new counselor may not adequately address your problem as they have theoretical approaches to your problems.
Choosing an unbiased counselor is another thing you need to do as a couple. With this in mind, do not go to a counselor that is a friend or knows about you outside of counseling as they will not be able to give solutions that favor the both of you. Go to counselor you both know will give you a solution that is not based on their emotions towards you.
It is important to choose a couneslor who has similar beliefs like you two. Having a counselor who does not subscribe to your beliefs or lifestyle maybe hard as they may give solutions that are againts your union. One of the things you need to know before you start on counseling is what the counselor’s views on polygamy, polyandry, same sex marriage, and divorce are. How the counselor reacts to your issues will be greatly determined by their views on such issues.
In order for any counseling session to be successful, there needs to be confidence established. A couple needs to choose a counselor they can both talk freely to a this is the first step to opening up and talking about their issues. Do not go to a counselor you are both uncomfortable with as you will not get anywhere.
The other thing you need to factor in is the cost for counseling. Different counselors charge different rates an you two need to settle on one you can afford. Payment may become another issue you two have to deal with, therefore, figure out a payment plan.
Figure out when the two of you are available for a session before you see the counselor as they mostly work during normal working hours. In case you are caught u al day, go for a counselor that works past normal office hours. The two of you need to be there in order for the counseling to make sense.